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Strength with awareness. Ideas that become practical.

Self-regulation In daily life.

Noticing tension, feelings and needs, and developing ways to respond. Not a demand to stay calm all the time.

Agency In daily life.

Recognising where your actions make a difference, without assuming you can control everything.

Resilience under stress In daily life.

Developing resources, pauses and support, not becoming endlessly able to endure.

Sovereignty In daily life.

Responsible self-leadership: holding boundaries and making choices while remaining open and connected.

Mindfulness & awareness In daily life.

Paying attention to your experience and familiar patterns without immediately judging them.

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EXPLORE / TOPICS & RESEARCH

What feels heavy deserves attention.

Knowledge can offer direction. Research describes patterns in groups, not a personal diagnosis or evidence of SHIVA SHIFT’s effectiveness.

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SHIVA SHIFT image illustrating performance pressure and overloadEXPLORE THE TOPICPressure & overloadRead more

When everythingfeels urgent at once.

Work, financial responsibility and care can collide. You may also feel expected to be strong and available all the time.

Which tasks can be shared? Where do you need relief? Which expectations actually reflect your values?

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SHIVA SHIFT image illustrating separation and identityEXPLORE THE TOPICSeparation & identityRead more

When arelationship ends, many roles change.

Grief, anger, uncertainty and concern about your bond with your child can coexist. Handovers, living arrangements and new agreements create additional demands.

You cannot control the whole situation on your own. You can seek support, prepare conversations and develop dependable steps within your control.

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SHIVA SHIFT image illustrating isolation and connectionEXPLORE THE TOPICIsolation & connectionRead more

When youcannot tell anyone how you feel.

Withdrawing or carrying pressure alone leaves fewer opportunities for shared experience and practical help. Even a full calendar can feel lonely.

A dependable contact, an honest conversation or a fathers' circle can be a beginning. You choose what you want to share.

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SHIVA SHIFT image illustrating warning signs and mental healthEXPLORE THE TOPICWarning signs & mental healthRead more

Not everydifficulty looks like sadness.

Irritability, sleep problems, exhaustion, difficulty concentrating, hopelessness or increased substance use can be signs of mental health problems. They are not a diagnosis.

If symptoms persist or significantly affect daily life, seek medical or psychotherapeutic assessment. Coaching does not replace treatment.

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Reflection on personal history and role modelsEXPLORE A TOPICYour upbringing and fatherhoodRead more

Your upbringing and fatherhood

Your own experiences of care, absence or criticism may resonate in everyday fatherhood. That does not mean you have to repeat the same story. We explore what shaped you and which response fits your values today.

Father and mother wounds are prompts for conversation here, not diagnoses. Inner-child work, archetypes and body-based reflection offer different ways in. Your child is not responsible for processing your history.

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RESEARCH / WITH CONTEXT

Understand the numbers. Keep people in view.

CONTEXT / GERMANY · 2023

73 %

of people who died by suicide were men.

Source: Federal Statistical Office · published 2024

A reason to make support more accessible.

A group-level finding, not a personal prediction or evidence of SHIVA SHIFT’s effectiveness.

Methods & further context

This figure covers all age groups in Germany. It is not a statistic specifically about fathers and does not establish the cause of any individual suicide.

You deserve support. In Germany, if you are experiencing suicidal thoughts, you can contact TelefonSeelsorge free of charge on 116 123. In immediate danger: 112.

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CONTEXT / INTERNATIONAL META-ANALYSIS · 2010

10.4 %

estimated prevalence of paternal depression around childbirth.

Source: Paulson & Bazemore · JAMA, 2010

Fathers need early support too.

A group-level finding, not a personal prediction or evidence of SHIVA SHIFT’s effectiveness.

Methods & further context

The meta-analysis covers 43 studies, from pregnancy to one year after birth. Findings vary considerably between studies. This figure is neither a current German rate nor an individual diagnosis.

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CONTEXT / FATHERS REPORT · GERMANY · 2023

21 %

of fathers provide roughly half of childcare, according to the Fathers Report.

Source: Federal Ministry for Family Affairs · Fathers Report 2023

A path between intentions and everyday life.

A group-level finding, not a personal prediction or evidence of SHIVA SHIFT’s effectiveness.

Methods & further context

Around one in two fathers wants to provide half of childcare. The report describes a gap between intentions and actual arrangements. It does not measure contact between separated fathers and their children.

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CONTEXT / FATHERS REPORT · GERMANY · 2023

43 %

of fathers would like to take on a greater share of childcare than they currently do.

Source: Federal Ministry for Family Affairs · Fathers Report 2023

Presence can be shaped together.

A group-level finding, not a personal prediction or evidence of SHIVA SHIFT’s effectiveness.

Methods & further context

Greater involvement needs practical agreements, time and suitable conditions. This figure describes preferences about sharing care. It is not a measure of custody or contact rights and does not judge individual families.

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CONTEXT / USA · SURVEY 2014 · REPORT 2016

17.5 %

of the custodial parents recorded in the Census report were fathers.

Source: U.S. Census Bureau · P60-255

Living arrangements are not court decisions.

A group-level finding, not a personal prediction or evidence of SHIVA SHIFT’s effectiveness.

Methods & further context

This group consists of parents whose own children under 21 live with them while the other parent lives elsewhere. The percentage describes this group in the USA in spring 2014. It is neither a rate of lost court cases nor a current German statistic.

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CONTEXT / HISTORICAL US ANALYSIS · PUBLISHED 2003

8,36 ×

relative suicide risk among divorced men compared with divorced women in a historical US analysis.

Source: Kposowa · Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health, 2003

Separation can bring greater strain.

Historical US data from 1979–1989: divorced men compared with divorced women. Not a comparison of fathers with and without child contact; no conclusion about cause or custody.

Methods & further context

The analysis uses US data from 1979–1989. The 95% confidence interval is 4.24–16.38. It compares divorced men and divorced women, not fathers with and without contact with their children. The figure establishes neither causation nor the effects of custody decisions.

Find support in a crisis

If you need support right now.

Coaching is not a crisis service. If you or someone else is in immediate danger in Germany, call 112. For a conversation in a psychological crisis, contact TelefonSeelsorge on 116 123; its telephone service is in German. Outside Germany, use local emergency and crisis services.

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Your child at the center.

Your strain deserves attention. Your child’s safety, needs and perspective remain the guide. Responsibility belongs to all parents. Respect, boundaries and different family situations have a place here.

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